Auntie Seraphic & the Nice TOO Catholic Boy

Well, my dears, here is the first Auntie Seraphic letter of the Easter season, sent to me just before I closed the office for Holy Week. And hold onto your hats, for it is from a man, and a man who very sensibly asked me for first and second date advice, too.

Dear Auntie Seraphic,

X turned me down for a second date because I'm Catholic. By her lights, Catholicism is too different from whatever flavor of protestant she is to continue [seeing me]. I'm very disappointed. On the one hand, I can see how this would save us all the pain that would result from re-litigating the Reformation. On the other hand, it's not everyday that I meet a pretty girl who takes her version of the Christian faith seriously (and who has many other qualities I find deeply attractive).

She wants to be friends once I move down to DC, where I had a job interview on Monday. I don't know how I feel about this. I already have several friends in the Washington metro area, but not so many that I should blithely turn down an offer of friendship. At the same time, I'm dubious that unrequited romantic attraction is a firm basis for friendship. In all likelihood I would become more attracted to her as I got to know her better.

Any advice you could offer would be greatly appreciated.

Best,

Nice TOO Catholic Boy

Dear N2CB,

I'm sorry that happened. In a way it's a mini-martyrdom, really, since this definitely counts as suffering for the faith.

I don't usually write to guys, so I'm of two minds about the whole friendship offer. On the one hand, it's good to know more people. On the other, you are right: you don't want to get hooked on a pretty girl who just wants to be friends.

Tell you what. Don't contact her for about a week, which is about as long as it will take her to feel regretful for having turned down a good guy. Then send her an email saying it would be great to see her again when you're in DC. If you're lucky, by the time you get down there, you will be over her, but she will think to include you in a party or some group activity, where you can meet someone else! 

Meanwhile, I'm sorry. Personally, I'm not a big believer in mixed-religion romances, so I can see her point, but it's still sad. Good for you for trying, though. 

Want me to print your letter? It may interest my readers to know that a good, available Catholic guy is DC-bound. 

Grace and peace,

Seraphic

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N2CB said "Sure," so if my Catholic DC readers would like to go as a group (since we do not do matchmaking here on Seraphic Singles, and I have never met the man, though he is certainly a long-term reader) and take out their brother Catholic for coffee and cake to make up for the continuing side-effects of the Protestant Reformation, then do let me know in the combox!

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Update: Thanks to ML for his March donation!